Why do guys mistake yr goodness for something else? I mean being nice, doesnt mean you like someone that way right? Gurls u hear me on this? Am I the only one always getting this..and guys, temme why you do this?

i hear you about losing yer friend and all. but it really need not be that way, i think. unless one or the other person is excessively irrational (hindi-film style "pyaaar") then just cause you thwart your friends advances (or vice versa) does not mean you're not friends with him anymore. i think. it works out fine even if people are moderately reasonable. heck, even people who're involved for years break up and still remain friends.

as i said earlier, to think of women a certain way is just natural to me (and guys like me). i don't do it consciously, it just happens. does not mean things will be expressed. does not mean i will go on and adopt an all or nothing strategy. and something may happen, that's cool. if something does not happen, and one party is embarrassed, things can be worked out. of course, it will be quite uneasy for a few days. but we're humans, we adapt. we can learn to chill.

Hiya back Sitara.:)) Ke cha gal? After much deliberation and experience ofcourse,i have arrived at the conclusion that when it comes to certain matters, the direct approach works best. ehehe...As a woman ta, rather conspicious, but hey, no lost sleep. I like things neat and tidy . Beaux are one thing, friends an entirely different one.

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Hi Kaly4nia!!!

Well this is a pretty good thread you initiated here in Sajha- Friends Mistaking Your Friendship...!!!!

I have been in that situation several times. What I realized is that Guys and Gals can never be friends: there is always this sexual tension lies in between them. To some extend you fall under the vicinity of attraction- the attraction of opposite pole. Well, do I need to give a justification on that???

Regarding your situation, I am sure you are in a foreign land (Kaly4nia hinted me that...), and especially while you are alone, you are looking for some companionship, and you don't care who it is, either male or female. You choose randomly for friendships. You feel so happy when there is someone out there who listen to you, agree/disagree or understands you. Now the tension arises.... If it is a girl, it is OK- you don't worry about your sexual tension, unless you are that one-big L. But, if the friend is guy, then the entire scenario changes. I understand you wholeheartedly. I am assuming here that you are not attracted towards your male friend, but since you are getting close with the male friend just by chit-chat. So here you go- the scene of sexual tension between male and female.

Guys have no answer for that Kaly4nia, right "Tired"? Tired, you do not fall under either of the catagory of "Honest" or "Weird" rather a "Simple guy with the Simple thinking..."

Detouring Sajha!!!
HD

Hey Humdrum, thanks for that comment. Yes, Im in Cali but dint had to be jus cuz of ma name. Anywho...where are u?u in ktm? jus curious..I totally agree with u, but disagree with wat u said earlier that guys n gals can never become frenz. Sorrie, but it does work....where do u live, dunchu look around/see ppl???
c'mon now, dont pick on tired...he's a guy and said what he wanted too. Everyone has their own opinions u knw, so u cant say he's wrong. Btw, he's a guy too rie? so he's speaking on behalf for some of em....peace.

sorry to disappoint but i speak only for myself.

kaly, you're a female and you think men and women can be friends. my guess is that most men don't think so.

Kaly4nia:

Believe me Kaly- there is no such a thing called a pure friendship between male and female. Even our pal, "Tired" do solemnly agree with me.

Well, I did not pick Tired on the purpose of criticising- rather answering his dilemma of him being either "Honest" or "Weird." I did not find any honesty on his writing and neither do any weirdo supplements. No offense to anyone....

Heaven-Hell-Purgatory, wherever we go- this sexual tension never gonna ceases.

HD

Ooopsy tired, guess I got u included with other guys.

Hd: Sorry, but I dont believe u.hehe. I stick to what I believe. Well, there may be you and tired who dont agree with me but other guys got my back...so me good. Btw, u dint reply my question as to where u were from? Curious..cuz u said I was in a foriegn land..how about yrself??If u in ktm, I get it. Laterzzzzzzzzzzz...

Scarlett, here you go:

Sylvia Plath - Dying is an art, like everything else, I do it exceptionally well (from Lady Lazarus)

Scarlett Ohara - Flirting is an art, like it or not, I do it exceptionally well with all men - the smitten weeping weakling 'male babies' to the dirty old 'tottering' Harries (from her recent bestseller - 'Thousand Ways to Flirt with Men')

Now, tell me: Do I follow Sylvia Plath or the flirting guru, Scarlett (who else?)? Definitely not the former, because yours truly does still have a lot of things to look forward to in life. No, he's least fond of inhaling gas to heaven (!), so there were films made about him! So, the latter's got to be my only option, isn't it?

Ok now, what else do you want me to bring to our next 'flirting' tuition session, guru ji? Yeah got the precis/notes, all very useful - taken from your book, I suppose! 'Bare essentials' ? What are they? A few Calvin Kline briefs? Got loads of them and no, we menfolk don't call them 'thongs'! I mean, couldn't you female lot have come up with a nice name, for chrissake! Thonnnnngg.... that 'ng' sound is so shrill, almost tears my ear drum to bits! :) What? Durexes? Huh?? Ahem. ahem... khaak thu thu where's my water bottle - I think, this tottering old man is gonna chock to death. Helllpppp ! :):)
How about that? A little bite at my English humour hai - no offence! :) :)

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SITARA,
About the 'dim wit' this end. Yes rendered 'witless' but he has definitely seen some flicking of light at the end of the tunnel! Could it be that he's well on his way to grab hold of the nirvana that he lacks in life! :)

I know, I know Miss, about London ko mausam and keti (did you drop it intentionally or what?) - all very unpredictable. And, ok, Sandhurst ko 'coffee chat' too! :) Well, if there were no coffee chat sessions, then life would have been pretty dull, don't you agree? On a serious note though, it will be lovely to have coffee with you some day. If I were ever to be 'tottering' about in your part of the world. Definitely.

Btw, have you seen the film on Sylvia Plath? Gyweneth Paltrow plays Sylvia and Daniel Craig, Ted Hughes. Worth a try if you have not already watched it.

Sylvia Plath, the morose poet has almost zilch in common with the O'hara types..perhaps except a shared passion for doing things perfectly.:)
Rest assured you will find a signed copy of That particular book in your mail.. just so that you may have it in you living room.. mounted on the wall.. a "see -no-touch" sign in broad ,conspicious letters:P
Um...I do have a a number of people simply beggin to take classes. Some of them rather hopeless, you for one show signs of promises.Keep your Kleins Kattus where they belong, for only teens who wish to show they have some eye catching stuff on with their ultra low pants wear em.;) Buff!@ That is whats always been in.Since the times of our Ape-ish forefathers till now. Be it Bekcham,Grant or Michael J?(did i reallllly say MJ?) eww!! hee hee...

Good to have your bk... and your humour if u may call it that:P:P

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:) :) Cheers Scarlett. Ping, then there's your post. So swift - feistiness and fastness, your in-built natural trait I suppose! Thanks anyway.

Yeah, the book would add much dimension to my idea of fen shui to go with the arrangement/ design of my dreary living room. Yes, accopanied by the terse singn - 'See - No Touch'... yeah, dat'l be wicked, missy innit! :)

Me showing promises re? Now you're in for the biggest dhoka of your life young lady - I can say that much for sure! :) :) So, may I suggest that you stick to the 'hopeless' ones because this tottering man this end is the most hopeless of all other hopelessesss! :) Thank you. As for the KK kattus - okay I've put them back into the drawer! What does MJ stand for by the way? Went over me ead, innit!

Stay tune.. Carpe diem

typos: Grrrr
Fen to read 'Feng'
singn to read 'sign'
tune to read 'tuned'

:)

MJ.. michael jackson hau! *lol*
Do read the Hellow post wud ya? and get bk to me .

Gone with the wind....